It happens to all of us.
Think of this scenario. You're instructed to do a new task. Something that will challenge your existing skillset. Great, right?
This is a typical scenario where fear of doubt creeps in. You have no exact precedence to prove to you that you're capable of pulling this off. The first thought that creeps into your mind is "What if I'm not good enough"?
Well, this thought happens to all of us and it adds absolutely no value to our lives. The only good thing that can come from it, is the mental strength you gain from setting it aside and here's how;
1. The people you compare yourself to compare themselves with others too.
We all compare ourselves to other people.
When you look at other people through a lens of compassion rather than pitting yourself against them you are better able to see them for what they are—human beings. Human beings with flaws, to be more accurate. Don't kid yourself into thinking that other people are more qualified than you (if you're both in similar roles). Appreciate that everyone is imperfect and if they are strong where you feel weak then you can be sure it works the other way around too. You are good enough.
2. Your mind can be a very convincing liar.
Don't give so much power to negative thoughts. Try to recall the times you've made your stomach turn with anxiety over things that have never happened. Remember how pointless and unhelpful those thoughts were.
3. There is more right with you than wrong with you.
Be aware that you are more likely to zoom in on your flaws than perfections. It helps to remind yourself that there are lots of things great about you too and in fact, more right than wrong. You are good enough, you bring a unique and invaluable set of skills.
4. You need love the most when you feel weak
If you're having negative thoughts then you need to be kind to yourself. You're not in a great place. The only way to help yourself out of a negative thought spiral is with self-love. Start thinking about how far you've come, be grateful for your journey, for where you are now and start to lift yourself out from that dark cloud.
5. You have to fully accept and make peace with the “now” before you can reach and feel satisfied with the “later.”
To make a longlasting change you really need to accept, acknowledge and respect who you are now.
Become at peace with who you are now and your future journey will feel much more stress-free, rewarding and satisfying.
6. Focus on progress rather than perfection and on how far you’ve come rather than how far you have left to go.
If we only strive for perfection and success, when we fall short, we feel worthless and unsatisfied. What we need to realise is that working toward our goals, regardless of how many times we fail, is something to celebrate. The journey in itself is an accomplishment.
7. You can’t hate your way into loving yourself.
Telling yourself what a failure you are won’t make you any more successful. Telling yourself you’re not sure if you can handle a new challenge, won't help up to be the best version of yourself. Telling yourself you’re worthless won’t make you feel any more worthy.
The only way to achieve self-love is to love yourself.
You are enough just as you are. And self-love will be a get easier the more you practice.