You're told time and time again to fake it till you make it, and what initially sounds quite absurd actually makes sense. Some 70% of people report feeling like a fraud at work. If you're not careful you can give opportunities away to the more confident 30% simply down to your lack of confidence.
Therefore, the "fake it till you make it" advice, is a safety protocol, saving you from yourself, until you realise your own worth.
So, here are eight ways to fake it till you make it.
1. Remember your past success.
If you're deliberating about whether you are good enough to take up a new opportunity then you need to think of your wins. Think of everything you've done to get where you are. Write it down if that helps, just make sure it's fresh in your mind and ready to remember when you need it most.
2. Surround yourself with people who reinforce you.
We can't do everything ourselves. Make sure in your life you are surrounded by people who believe in you. Limit your interactions with toxic people, in so far as is possible. Make sure that you have enough genuine love and support towards your goals. Without this, it's very hard to get by on a very low day. This can be anyone, family, friends even coworkers.
Exercise is a confidence-boosting natural drug. Before a high-stress situation such as an interview or presentation sweat it out. Put your power music on and don't stop till you hurt. Not only does it help you to build your confidence by flushing happy endorphins through your brain but it helps you to mentally focus and not get so sidetracked by worries or fears.
4. Don't forget your bigger picture
Have faith that you are on the right path. Nobody is perfect and you are here to learn. So, if you feel out of your depths, think about everything you have done before and how capable you are. Think about your journey, where you want to be and how close every new challenge will take to your goals. Instead of feeling fear, feel gratefulness.
5. Give what you want to receive.
Validate other people and in turn, validate yourself. When Derek Doepker, the author of Why You’re Stuck, began his journey, he felt like a fraud. His answer was to identify a role model He researched authors, podcasters and bloggers who resonated with him. Go and tell them how much they mean to you - he advises, and it helps you find your own worth in the process.
6. Never let ’em see you feel like a fraud.
Typically, when we exhibit equanimity and confidence, it makes the situation much better. Think about how awkward it is to watch a nervous speaker? Think about how strange it feels to have an unsure leader? No matter what, do what it takes to fake it till you make it. Remember feeling like a fraud is normal and every scary moment will pass. Just give your best performance regardless of how you feel inside. Make people think you can handle it.