When greed takes over…

greed

The most ambitious want a slice of everything life has to over.

They want the biggest challenges in their job.

They want to be highly paid.

They want an active social life.

They want an active life; gym, yoga and dancing.

They want to watch all of their Netflix recommended shows.

They want to make all of their kid’s school plays.

They want their cake and to eat it too.

Sound familiar?

The term for this is “greed”. This word might sound a little aggressive. But it reflects the truth. If you want more than you presently have and you know that having it all, is probably impossible, that you are suffering from greed. This doesn’t make you a bad person. It makes you human. We are discussing greed not to berate the human condition but to understand how greed undermines our happiness.

Why greed makes us unhappy

If we are always wanting the next big thing, then we don’t appreciate what we have, right now.

We get lost in the “want” and forget the “haves”. It’s that simple.

It makes us rush through our precious lives. Eager to get to the next step. Without pausing to focus on the beauty of the step we are already on.

How to let go of greed

1. Identify the feeling of greed

Recognise when you urge for something new. Feel is as it pulls you in another direction. Notice how it distracts you. Be self-aware when greed strikes you.

2. See the impact of greed

Next recognize what the greed makes you do. Notice how suddenly nothing is good enough until you have the “new thing”.

See how it makes you feel stressed, overwhelmed and unsatisfied.

Feel how it clouds your happiness for what you do have. 

3. Try to refrain 

You always have a choice.

You can choose to not indulge.

You can choose to not let greed take over your mind.

You can refrain.

First, when you feel the urge of greed, try to pause.

Rationalise and understand that the greed is just a feeling and you don’t need these desires, you just want them. There’s a difference.

4. Replace the greed with generosity 

Instead of trying to do everything, choose just one thing.

Ideally, choose something that’s important and purposeful, that will add value to the lives of others.

It doesn’t have to be something big.

Let go of everything else and just for a few minutes be completely at one with this thing.

Generously give it your full attention.

This practice enables you to find the value in giving and see the negative impact of greed.

What you will learn is that adding value to others will pave your pathway to success, far more efficiently than greed ever could.

 

You can still be successful without letting greed take over your entire life.

We can’t have our cake and eat it if we also want to be happy.

Stop indulging in the future and start focusing on the present.

 

6 Self-care tips for those who wish there were more hours in the day

self-care

Even if you are successful right now, without self-care you cannot hope to sustain your success without sacrificing your health. We rationalize, neglecting ourselves (a.k.a exclude self-care) from our routine saying “there’s not enough time” or, “this task is more important.” However, the cold truth is, the decisions you take now have a determinative impact on your future health. I’m not just talking about physical health but mental health too. Stress will be a big health consequence for many modern workers. Our bodies have not been prepared for our working lives today – intense stress, sleep deprivation, 24/7 connectivity, and tech exposure all have consequences. We must take it upon ourselves to reduce the negative side-effects, of success, with adequate self-care. If you could see into your future, you would, arguably, make the time now.

What is self-care?

It’s anything you need to be happy confident and whole. This means taking note of your needs and not putting external factors ahead of them. It can be as small as brushing your teeth, regularly exercising and as big as, leaving the job or marriage you hate because it’s making you desperately unhappy.

Self-care is an investment that pays dividends. The more you show yourself self-care, the brighter your days become; the more energy you have; and the happier you are. The only person keeping you from investing more in yourself is you.

How to practice self-care even if you are super busy

1. Change your mindset

Self-care must be a priority. It must be as important as meeting a deadline and making your family reunion. We can make a million excuses to not do something. For many modern workers, it’s the “I have no time excuse.” But, we have the same amount of hours in our day as Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Beyonce and Amal Clooney. They manage to not look like stress is dominating their lives. They practice self-care. So, if you want to get serious about self-care (or, truthfully, anything else), you’re going to have to do an honest audit of your time. Cut the fat (low-value habits) and build the muscle (prioritize important habits). It’s that simple.

2. Nutrition

Eat a healthy, balanced diet. Just the process of putting a nutritious meal into your body, instead of a convenient fast option, makes you feel better. You can prepare healthy meals at the weekend to make sure you don’t waste time during the week searching for healthy options. Or, if you spend a lot of time in the city, you will be able to find fast, healthy options. Make sure you drink plenty of water and enrich your body with natural ingredients throughout the day. As a rule of thumb, when choosing what to eat “the closer to the ground the better”, this means choosing fruits, vegetables, and whole grains, over any packaged items. Eating this way can truly transform both your physical and mental health.

3. Find your stress release

This should not be partying or blowing off steam with an entire bottle of wine.  This should be about dealing with stress, in a healthy way. It’s about taking the path of least destruction to deal with life’s hurdles. For me, exercise is my stress release. When I’m running, I get lost in the zone. For up to 15 minutes, I am focused on only one thought, my breathing. It feels magical. Something, I believe is similar to the benefits many feel from meditation. How you choose to deal with stress is ultimately a matter for you. But I can promise that when you find, your “thing”, it’s life changing and can fix even the worst of days.

4. Spend time with those you love

Don’t sacrifice your time with loved ones. This leads to many things but ultimately unhappiness and regret. Your loved ones can boost you in ways, you cannot. They can give you a perspective you don’t have and they can make you feel like nothing else matters (including all the stress) when you are with them. So, for the sake of your well-being and for the sake of the people you care about, make a regular routine and take the time to be with your friends and family.

Whatever spending time with the ones you care about most looks like for you, be sure to find a way to consistently fit in into your schedule.

5. Schedule personal time

Make sure you schedule downtime. This can be reading a book, watching a tv-show or simply relaxing just ensure it’s anything but working or doing chores. It should be time alone relaxing, catching up on thoughts and feeling at ease.

We all need time to ourselves, it’s crucial to our mental health. It doesn’t have to be a lot of time, 30 minutes a day can suffice, just make sure its a regular priority for the sake of your self-care.

6. Get enough Zzzzz

Without sleep, you will not be able to function or properly control your emotions.

Sleep deprivation makes you less productive and more likely to burn out. The general recommendation is 7-8 hours per night, however, in reality, some people have found they can function on a little less. So, whatever your bare minimum sleep may be, just ensure you get it, every night.

Listen to your body and give it what it needs. That is the essence of self-care – putting yourself first.

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