How to ask for a favour and get it granted


There will come a time in your life when you will need to ask for a favour.

It doesn't feel great, asking someone to do something for you, but it's sometimes a necessity.

So, here is how to ask for a favour and actually get it granted.

1. Consider the other person

You need to recognise that it's not all about you.

You're asking someone to help your needs at the cost of their time, energy and/or money. Don't just brush it off as nothing because it does put the other person out. The best way to address this is to acknowledge it. When you ask for the favour, think about what it involves for them and make it clear you've considered this in your communications. Not in an overly apologetic way but more of I have thought about what this ask, involves for you. This not only builds trust but actually works to persuade the other person - if you've carefully considered what they have to do and you're still asking them for it can't be such a huge deal.

If you can try and strike a win/win deal, where if they help you - you'll help them. This can work in most businesses contexts for example support with covering shifts or work.

2. Ask with the expectation that your request will be granted

If you ask them for a favour with your tail between your legs, then you've already failed.

Mentality is everything.

You need to believe you're going to get what you ask for. This means not profusely apologising or saying that this is a waste of their time. You wouldn't genuinely approach someone if you felt like you were wasting their time, so don't play games or give them too much power. Ask to win.

If you play it up, they are less likely to accept, but if you don't create a huge fuss about it they are far more likely to accept.

3. Be truthful

Being truthful gains trust.

Make sure to not tell any white lies, or butter anything up no matter how large or small. Studies show that when you come at people from a place of honesty, they tend to feel a lot more secure with you, because they empathise with and understand, you.

Tell them why you're asking for it. Help them to understand your motive. It helps people to empathise and see that they would probably do the same thing if they were in your position.

4. Be very specific about what you need

Don't be vague or unclear.

It's crucial when you ask someone for something that they understand it in the first instance. Otherwise, it becomes more lengthy and confusing then it needs to be and they will be annoyed in helping you.

Be clear, concise and exact. That way you'll get exactly what you want.

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