Decades of research proves that emotional intelligence is critical to success. 90% of top performers have high emotional intelligence.
How to work out whether you have high or low EQ, isn't easy. However, Dr Travis Bradberry co-author of the leading book Emotional Intelligence 2.0 collected data from a million-plus people tested in order to identify the behaviours that are the hallmarks of a high EQ.
1. A robust emotional vocabulary
All people experience emotions, but it is a select few who can accurately depict them as they occur. In fact, only 36% of people can do this. Misunderstood emotions lead to frustrations and even actions that we regret.
People with high EQs master their emotions because they understand them, and they use an extensive vocabulary of feelings to do so.
2. They are curious about people
Emotionally intelligent people are curious about everyone around them. This curiosity is from their underlying empathy. The more you care about other people and what they’re going through, the more curiosity you’re going to have about them.
3. They embrace change
Emotionally intelligent people are flexible and are constantly adapting. They are the leaders of innovation. They understand that success means embracing change and feeling the change of the wind.
4. They are aware of their strengths and weaknesses
Emotionally intelligent people don’t just understand their emotions they are self-aware about what their weaknesses and strengths are. They keep tabs on their frustrations and work harder every day to be a better person. Having a high EQ means you take full advantage of your strengths while keeping your weaknesses from holding you back.
5. They are excellent judges of character
Much of emotional intelligence comes down to social awareness. This is the ability to read other people, know how to manage them and empathise with them.
6. They are difficult to offend
People with high EQ have a high sense of who they are and can't easily be knocked down. Don't get me wrong they are open to constructive criticism but anything else is water off a ducks back.
Emotionally intelligent people are self-confident and open-minded, which creates a pretty thick skin.
7. They don't hold grudges
The negative emotions that come with holding onto a grudge are actually a stress response. Emotionally intelligent people recognise that grudges are simply an inability to let negative experiences go. The weightless experience of letting go of grudges is a clear path towards future success.
8. They neutralise toxic people
High EQ individuals control their interactions with toxic people by keeping their feelings in check. When they must deal with a toxic person they approach the situation rationally, they don't let their emotions take leadership. They try to empathise even pity the toxic person but the one thing they don't do is give them any importance.