Body language – its not what you say it’s how you say it. Our body language shapes how others see us, our chances of success and even how we see ourselves. The ability to read body language and in turn become more aware of our own – can gives us a huge advantage when it matters most. It can be the trick that closes the deal, gets you the job or bring you valuable clarity to social interactions. Here is a list of the basics to get you started.
*word of warning – as with any system of evidence, ‘clusters’ of body language signals provide a much more reliable indication of meaning rather than one or two signals in isolation. You are generally advised to avoid interpreting single signals.
Don’t flash an immediate smile when you meet someone as this shows lack of authenticity, instead make the person feel special – take a second to absorb the other persons face and then let a big “responsive smile flood over your face”.
Janine Driver suggests to not pull in your lips and hide them in your mouth as it communicates that you are holding back from your audience.
Body language – Torso/lower body
Janine Driver suggests;
Don’t cross your arms when you first meet people as this communicates insecurity and even hostility.
Do cross your arms if you are with friends – it can help your problem solving abilities as the action uses both sides of your body which consequently engages both sides of your brain; the logical left and the creative right.
Leil Lowndes suggests
When you first meet someone turn your whole body towards them and give them your undivided attention similar to how you would treat a baby – she calls this the “big baby pivot”.
Don’t cross your legs or ankles – these positions not only communicate lack of confidence but they also make us feel less powerful by affecting the hormone balance in our brain – read more about this here.
Leila is PCA’s Head Editor and Researcher. She holds a 1st class Law with Business degree and became a published author at 25. Former crime investigator turned business journalist. On a mission to show businesses that presenteeism is a thing of the past. Everything seems impossible until it’s done. Typically found working from a white beach in South-East Asia embracing rapidly changing technology.