How to make any bad situation better

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Sometimes, things just don’t go as we plan.

Whenever we have a big, high-stress situation, the reality is, somethings will go badly. The only thing you can do in these bad situations is controlling your reaction.

Here are 5 tips for managing the worst days and getting your groove back.

1. Put it in perspective.

Whatever is happening, does it really matter? Will it matter in one year? For some situations, the answer might very well be yes—e.g., a job loss ect but think about how when one door closes another opens.

2. Accept the bad situation 

Often, most of the negative feelings that come with a bad situation, actually come with our inability to accept it. If we just accept that something hasn’t gone our way, we can start to find solutions or even see the positive. it also speeds up our ability to get over a bad situation.

3. Be flexible.

Don’t rigidly stick to a plan. If something got going how it should be flexible enough to know when it’s time to give up or try something else. For example don’t sit through a bad film, if leaving you could have more fun.

4. Don’t ruminate on bad situations 

It’s easy to beat yourself up after something goes wrong. You may find yourself playing out alternative realities, and what you could have done differently. If there are lessons to be learned then take them but importantly, move on.

5. Make the most of it  

You can choose to focus on a bad situation or you can choose to make the most of it. You can feel resentful and annoyed or you can trust that you are on the right path and doing your best. There is really no point in making a bad situation worse – so if you can always try to enhance your mood and make the most of a bad situation.


5 of the best morning hacks for successful people

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There are many demands on workers today. Trying to fit in your family with work, is one struggle – then tasked with the actual work is a whole other battle. We are constantly teetering on the edge of exhaustion, especially in the cold winter months. However here are 5 successful morning hacks to help you dominate your day and keep your precious free time.

1. Never hit the snooze button.

Hitting the snooze button – this trick, which only ever wins you a few more minutes actually sends a negative message to your brain. You’re telling it that a few minutes sleep are more important than smashing your day. Is that true?

2. Wake up earlier 

Statistically, most millionaire and billionaires wake up typically between 4 a.m. and 5 a.m. Whilst, it may seem insanely early there are actually significant benefits to waking up before the sun comes up. The most important reason is that you add another hour of your day, at a time when everyone else is asleep – peace!

3. Eat right

Drinking water and eating protein, as soon as you wake up, helps you to recover from your sleep-induced dehydrated state and also suppresses your appetite so that you can get focused on your work. Plus, they will sustain your energy levels over a much longer period of time, making it easier for you to keep up momentum throughout the day.

4. Start with an attack list

Figure out the three most beneficial tasks that will help your business. Get on them right away, use the extra hour for errands, tasks or working on your attack list.

When you make your attack list, you need to put the scariest, most time-consuming task at the very top. You will have no motivation to get to the bottom of your list if it’s filled with scary items you’ll know you have to complete after.

5. Put your phone away

If you can put your phone in a separate room. It’s worrying how much our phones distract us and worse, how we just let them distract us.

Scientific studies have proven repeatedly that you cannot multitask. What most people call “multitasking” is just giving shallow focus to a bunch of different tasks for a few minutes or seconds at a time.

Every time you get distracted by your phone you lose the quality of work from the task you were distracted from. This is why the average office worker only gets three hours of productive work done for every eight hours they spend on the clock. Separate yourself from this worrying stat and put your phone away and giving your work the proper focus it deserves.


Imposter syndrome and how to beat it

Imposter Syndrome

We all experience feeling that we are inadequate. Regardless of our qualifications or suitability for a role, Imposter Syndrome can knock our confidence and make us feel like we are not in the right place. In 1978 by clinical psychologists, came up with the term of Imposter Syndrome and is formally marked by a persistent fear of being exposed as a “fraud” and an inability to internalise accomplishments. According to HBR, common thoughts and feelings associated with this syndrome include, “I must not fail,” “I feel like a fraud,” “It’s all down to luck,” and “Success is no big deal.

While both men and women experience Impostor Syndrome, studies show that women are more often affected and more likely to suffer the consequences. Valerie Young, author of The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women, says, “Being female means you and your work automatically stand a greater chance of being ignored, discounted, trivialized, devalued or otherwise taken less seriously than a man’s.” It is hence no surprise why women tend to question their abilities and feel inferior.

So what can you do to limit the negative impact of Impostor Syndrome?

1. Self-awareness.

The first important step is to recognize that you are experiencing these feelings. Awareness is the key to bringing about the change, you need, in the way you think and act. As soon as you know and rationalise what you are feeling, you are on your way to handling it and getting it under control.

2. Talk about it

There may be others who share the same fears as you, even in your workplace. By sharing your feelings you may find out that you are not alone. Try to find people who have overcome feelings of inadequacy and use their stories to support you.

3. Reconsider your perception of failure.

It is okay to sometimes be wrong. We can’t know everything and failing gives us room to grow and learn. Remember that even the most successful people have failed, considerably, people lose millions in business, lose their jobs but come back fighting –  and they are not less deserving of their positions. Remind yourself that you will learn more as you progress. Evaluate the reality of what could go wrong by asking yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen?” This will help to rationalise and control your fears. Most importantly, reframe the failure as an opportunity to learn. Always remember, no one really knows what their future holds. The fact that you are pushing yourself to be your best is admirable and authentic to your true self. Don’t discredit your journey but respect it.

4. Reaffirm your self-worth.

Accept the facts pointing to your competency or success and be kind to yourself. Get rid of any negative self-talk. When you feel inadequate, go back and review previous accomplishments or positive feedbacks. Recount the people who applauded your success remember the days you are proud of. This will help to assure that nobody belongs where you are more than you do.


How to survive tough business cycles


Generally, tough business times relate to money issues from either a tough downward spiral on profits, clients leaving you or a number of other variables. But, when the going gets tough – what do we need to do, to survive? Here are six expert proved methods to push you through the tough times.

1. When the going gets tough the tough get going

Whenever you feel a disaster in the air, the single most important thing to do is take action. Don’t be the deer in the headlights, things will only get worse. Use your innate human ability to thrive under pressure and take action right away.

2. Only bring facts to the table

When things are taking a nasty turn don’t hypothesise or fear about what “could” happen. It’s crucial to get all of the facts about what’s going on – and only deal with those facts. Think about it, most of the things we worry about never actually happen, so don’t let your imagination drain your energy and ruin your ability to properly deal with the situation.

3. Don’t neglect your existing clients 

Ironically in times are tough, many businesses neglect their existing clients. A depressed and negative space causes businesses to lose far more customers than they should. In bad times make sure only the relevant people know and make sure to keep up appearances inside your organization as well as outside. Tough times are when you should be building bulletproof relationships with your clients

4. Tough times can turn into innovation 

Tough times lead to the crossroads and the crossroads are when innovation happens. Why isn’t a certain idea not going down well with your clients? Why is your business losing profits? What can you do better? In tough moments, the most successful discover how to thrive.

5. Be careful whom you spend your time with

As the old saying goes “if you lay down with dogs you get up with fleas.” Avoid people who are negative who can find the downside of any situation.  Don’t let yourself get caught up in the negativity black hole. Keep away from people who are like this and find the positive, tenacious business owners who have been through hell and back to reach their success.

6. Invest in you

Just as important it is to work harder than ever before when your business is bad – it is just as. or even more important. to invest in yourself. How can you hope to bring creativity or a new lease of life to your business if you are mentally drained, anxious and feeling negative about your future? You need to take this time to learn new skills, rejuvenate your passion for business. You also need to make sure you are physically and mentally strong enough to carry your team, through this tough time, right to the finishing line.


Don’t let these bad habits damage your happiness


We all strive for happiness. Happiness, however, has no universal definition. Instead, it depends on you and whatever it takes to get you to the bliss, content, utter euphoric state of happiness.

Unhappiness, on the other hand, is easy to identify; you can see it, feel it and you definitely know when it’s wrapped its arms around you.

Happiness, rather satisfyingly, has little to do with financial circumstances. A University of Illinois study found that people who earn the most (more than $10 million annually) are only a tiny bit happier than their employees.

Psychologists from the University of California found that happiness makes up of only 50% your life circumstances and genetics `9i.e things outside of your control). So, the remaining 50% is up to you.

Unhappiness can catch up with you. It grows, following a long period of time, not being self-aware. During this time your thoughts and actions have been unhealthy for you. You have failed to look after your needs, properly and you are left feeling unhappy.

The good news is that this state of unhappiness is not permanent and resolvable. So much of your happiness is determined by your habits (in thought and actions) and once you are aware of the unhappiness traps – they are easily avoided to ensure you a future, filled with happiness.

1. Not being true to yourself

If you’re anxious, say it. Don’t pretend you’re not feeling something when you are. Suppressing feelings is unhealthy. It doesn’t let you deal with anything. Instead, by pushing your feelings down, and not dealing with or accepting them, you are vulnerable to them coming back and attacking you, when you least expect it.  The height of emotional intelligence is, respecting your feelings and allowing yourself to experience the consequences that come from embracing them, for what they are. Only then, can you express and use your feelings, in a manner that helps (rather than undermines) your ability to reach your goals.

2. Too much tech, too little nature

Everyone enjoys binge-watching a TV show and checking up on social media. The real question issue is how much of your time do you give to that TV show or social media pages, avoiding the real world? Does it make you feel good or numb? Most times, it doesn’t make you happy but just passes your time. Is that what you want your life to be? Did you know that taking a walk in nature is a natural anti-depressant? It can boost your flat mood far higher than any tech, ever could. Monitor your tech time and make sure you’re spending more time with nature, than tech, for a happier life, it’s that simple.

3. Waiting for the future

Telling yourself, “I’ll be happy when …” is one of the easiest unhappy habits to fall into. Future imagined circumstances don’t lead to happiness. Happiness happens, right now. Even if you get everything you want for your future, happiness comes from within. You can’t be happy, even if you have the husband/wife, car, job of your dreams if you haven’t worked on your internal happiness. Don’t spend your time waiting for something to change how you feel. Instead, be in control and focus on improving your happiness, right now.

4. Fighting change

Change is an inevitable part of life, and if you fight it it’s because you are struggling to remain in control. The problem with this is that you remain on edge, constantly fearing change and actually put up a barrier between yourself and the actions you need to take to improve your situation. You must remain adaptable for change. Be flexible. Your brain needs challenges to survive. Your brain craves adversity. By avoiding adversity you become mentally weak, which leads to unhappiness. Embrace change, live an interesting life and reap the happiness rewards.




How to make every day mentally healthy


Sleep, wake up, work. Repeat. If this is your daily routine, you may be setting yourself up for a miserable existence.

We have to take action and create healthy habits today, otherwise, our lives can pass us by before we know it.

Creating healthy habits allows you to reign more control over your life and enjoy each and every day.

Being conscious and enjoying every day encourages a mentally, healthy existence.

1. Wake up with mental space

Don’t start checking your emails as soon as you hear your alarm. Allow yourself space to wake up. Even if it’s only 30 – 45 minutes – this non-tech, non-work related space, makes the world of difference to your day.

2. Work out

People tend to feel more depressed when they neglect their bodies. Make sure that you schedule time for yourself to work out, even if you don’t feel like it. It significantly boosts your health, self-image, and mind.

3. Get lost in fiction

Whether you prefer to read or watch, getting lost in another reality can help to reset your mind and flareup your creative juices. That stimulation makes your day smoother by thinking differently, solving problems in abstract ways and, most importantly, makes you happy.

4. Write poetry or a diary entry

However you prefer to mark a day, just make sure you do it. Some people like to write poems as they find it easier to recreate atmospheres than write objectively about their day. Other people write diary entries as they find it therapeutic – they can also compare entries to other days – to mark progress. Both writing styles can increase your self awareness and appreciate for each and every day. It keeps your mind open to the small details in life and is an incredibly healthy habit to have.

5. Check in with your family and friends

Surround yourself with your biggest fans. Create circles of support around you. Validate your friends and family and also make yourself feel stronger as they support you. These people are exactly who you need at the end of a stressful or upsetting day and visa versa. Make sure you schedule in time for these important people.

6. Don’t forget to play

Going back to your childhood can rejuvenate your soul. Take a walk in the woods and just wonder at the nature around you. If you are blessed by young people around you then play and laugh with them. Or listen to music from your childhood.


The best ways to fake it till you make it

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You’re told time and time again to fake it till you make it, and what initially sounds quite absurd actually makes sense. Some 70% of people report feeling like a fraud at work. If you’re not careful you can give opportunities away to the more confident 30% simply down to your lack of confidence.

Therefore, the “fake it till you make it” advice, is a safety protocol, saving you from yourself, until you realise your own worth.

So, here are eight ways to fake it till you make it.

1. Remember your past success.

If you’re deliberating about whether you are good enough to take up a new opportunity then you need to think of your wins. Think of everything you’ve done to get where you are. Write it down if that helps, just make sure it’s fresh in your mind and ready to remember when you need it most.

2. Surround yourself with people who reinforce you.

We can’t do everything ourselves. Make sure in your life you are surrounded by people who believe in you. Limit your interactions with toxic people, in so far as is possible. Make sure that you have enough genuine love and support towards your goals. Without this, it’s very hard to get by on a very low day. This can be anyone, family, friends even coworkers.

3. Exercise 

Exercise is a confidence-boosting natural drug. Before a high-stress situation such as an interview or presentation sweat it out. Put your power music on and don’t stop till you hurt. Not only does it help you to build your confidence by flushing happy endorphins through your brain but it helps you to mentally focus and not get so sidetracked by worries or fears.

4. Don’t forget your bigger picture 

Have faith that you are on the right path. Nobody is perfect and you are here to learn. So, if you feel out of your depths, think about everything you have done before and how capable you are. Think about your journey, where you want to be and how close every new challenge will take to your goals. Instead of feeling fear, feel gratefulness.

5. Give what you want to receive.

Validate other people and in turn, validate yourself. When Derek Doepker, the author of Why You’re Stuck, began his journey, he felt like a fraud. His answer was to identify a role model He researched authors, podcasters and bloggers who resonated with him. Go and tell them how much they mean to you – he advises, and it helps you find your own worth in the process.

6. Never let ’em see you feel like a fraud.

Typically, when we exhibit equanimity and confidence, it makes the situation much better. Think about how awkward it is to watch a nervous speaker? Think about how strange it feels to have an unsure leader? No matter what, do what it takes to fake it till you make it. Remember feeling like a fraud is normal and every scary moment will pass. Just give your best performance regardless of how you feel inside. Make people think you can handle it.


Are you ready for Generation Z?

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Generation Z is about to take over the “millennial” hype. They consist of the generation born between 1996 and 2010 – and are set to make up one-fifth of the workforce by 2021.

Unsurprisingly Generation Z differs quite significantly, to their millennial predecessors and bring a whole new set of ideas to the working world. Unlike Millennials, who are driven by purpose, Generation Z has grown up through a recession and the fear of it happening again means they are motivated by money and security.

Their new set of ideals mean they will make waves in the workplace and if employers wish to retain them, they should respond accordingly. So, if you want to be well-prepared for the new wave, consider three core Gen Z traits and how they can benefit your business.

1. Make tech your priority 

Generation Z lives and breathes tech. They don’t know a life without it. To reckon with this new wave you need to make your workspace a truly digital environment. This not only pleases Gen Z but it also makes your workspace the most efficient space possible.

Forward-thinking organizations like PwC are making digital fitness (as they call it) a business imperative (read more here)

As a rule of thumb, anything that can reduce the friction of getting work done or smooth workflow is fair game for an upgrade.

2. Feed the Generation Z hunger for competition 

Generation Z is fiercely independent and competitive, They’re not afraid and even like some healthy competition with their teammates.

A great way to create cohesion amongst Generation Z and your team is to run some in-house competitions among your staff. Technology again provides a creative solution but equally, anything that proves their worth, within the context of your organization will quench their competitive thirst.

Investing in their competitive side could provide value for your organisations future. think about innovation projects or think tanks which, if liked, could see some incredibly beneficial ideas being implemented.

3. Design your space to encourage “togetherness”

Interesting statistics to take into account, if you really want to understand Generation Z, are as follows;

  • They have startlingly high levels of loneliness within Generation Z, which topped the UCLA Loneliness Scale with a score of 48.3in a recent Cigna study.
  • Other research shows high levels of anxiety and distrust among Generation Z, pointing to their social media childhoods and being raised during the recession.

Designing a space that encourages collaboration, openness and a feeling of togetherness will help this new generation to do their best work which may provide instrumental value to their growth.

Over the past two decades, organizations have paid attention to the unprecedented mindset of Millennials. Now it’s time to do that again for Generation Z. Getting the most out of employees does take investment, but in the long run, it reaps rewards for organizations who have created the perfect space for success.


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